More Sister-in-law Drama

I'm somewhat pleased to report that it seems my sister-in-law's venomous nature is not just reserved for myself or other adult members of the family. She is now striking out at my father-in-law's girlfriend's daughter. Bravo FIB, you've outdone yourself once again.

The latest is that the little girl (she's 8) was riding her bike with friends around the portion of the compound that my sister-in-law occupies and the FIB felt the need to yell at her and her friends who weren't hurting anything and were just doing what 8 year olds do. Apparently reference was made to it being "her" property and "her house" etc. etc..

They pay a ridiculous pittance of rent on the place, and the FIB's sense of entitlement grants her the right to determine who is or is not allowed within 100 feet of the garage apartment. Thus, she has decided that the only souls granted access to the immediate vicinity surrounding casa del bitch is her family (immediate and extended, though the same does not apply for my brother-in-law's family) and her "friends" who quite frankly are more screwed up than she is. Imagine a prostitute looking for love in all the wrong places and you'll have an idea of what her friends are like. Shells of human beings with zero self-esteem and about as much common sense as a potato.

Anyway, nobody said anything to her. My father-in-law who dotes on the 8-year old girl didn't say squat about the incident and the girls mother obviously isn't in a place to say anything and the FIB wouldn't listen even if she did.

I reported the incident to my husband and I'm sure he just ignored me and decided to think about her tits which are apparently made of gold or something as no male is able to say boo to this girl about her ridiculously troll-like personality. It's amazing. I feel like I should just become the worlds biggest whore to get a little respect in this family. Have a couple kids that are obviously not my husbands and then maybe everyone will pander to my whims regardless of how outrageous they are. I honestly don't get it.

If either my brother-in-law or sister-in-law ever read this, they will know immediately it's about them. Good.

WAKE UP YOU TWITBALLS. You act like spoiled brats (more so her than him, though I blame my brother-in-law entirely for allowing the troll to infect the family) and I for one hope you both get what's coming to you in very short order. Oh, and dear brother-in-law, get a paternity test for each of your children. You're welcome for the tip.

Family Drama

Today I'm going to write a selfish post. I need to vent. Like right now.

It's my in-laws. Specifically my sister-in-law. I'm not really sure what her problem is... I mean, yes, she has some mental deficiencies (she claims bipolar disorder, but I think it's more of an extreme case of straight-up bitch than anything) and yes, her living situation completely sucks, but she chose her living situation and from my understanding bipolar people have good days and bad days... not just 5 years of bad days.

So what's the problem you ask? Well, after Christmas she stopped talking to me for no apparent reason. I don't call her because she doesn't like it when people call and that's fine, so I tried texting when I had a question regarding some gathering (I can't remember what it was for at this point). No answer. At all. I thought hey, maybe one of her two children flushed her phone down the toilet, so I Facebooked. No answer. At all. At this point I was pretty sure that I was being ignored, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. It wasn't until we attended a family gathering a couple of weeks later that I was sure she was ignoring me. The lack of greeting, avoidance of eye contact and zero communication was what gave it away. She did throw me a few dramatic sighs when she clearly disagreed with something I had said.

I'd like to throw out that she's also pregnant with child number 3. On state tax-payer funded health insurance. Living in a 2 bedroom apartment in my (our) father-in-law's driveway. Oh, and she's 22. Impressive, no? Sorry, none of that really has to do with the story, I just wanted to lay groundwork for what a stellar person she is to begin with.

A little more back-story because I'm bitter and angry at her right now, I'd like to mention that baby #1 came along when she was 18 and baby #2 when she was 20. She got married to my brother-in-law at 21. The first pregnancy was announced shortly after my husband and I got married. At the time I recall that she was acting oddly and being... well, a bitch... because of the attention we were getting. I guess the baby was her way of directing the focus on to her, but she didn't anticipate that the parents of her teenage boyfriend wouldn't be thrilled that she turned up pregnant. We had to change our plans for our first baby because I was upset over the events because #1 I thought we'd have the first grandchild on my husband's side and #2 I am NOT a fan of teenage pregnancy, especially unwed teenagers. It just sets a bad example in the family that my children will grow up looking at and knowing about and feeling is right. Basically, it's against my morals. I think the baby was a way of "fixing" her relationship with my brother-in-law, which was pretty shaky at the time, but he didn't wind up marrying her until after baby #2 was born.

Anyway, I digress. Back to my story.

So after the obvious silent treatment I was getting, nobody in the family that witnessed it and knows it's going on said anything to her. The response I keep getting is, "she's young and doesn't know any better..." or "she's pregnant and she'll be better once she's back on her meds..." or "well, she's just being herself...".  None of those excuses -- and that's what they are -- are good enough. We've been playing this happy dance for 5 years now. Five long and extremely annoying years.




I told my husband that if this witch with a capital B had been around before we got engaged, I would have said no. Had she been around before we put the deposit down on our venue, I would have cancelled the wedding. As it is, I have dreams of leaving the family over it. My husband won't stand up to her and manages to make excuses for her in the name of keeping the peace.


So now, after about 4 months of this crazy silent treatment going on I still don't know what sparked it. On top of that, she unfriended me on Facebook. Classy. Perhaps she didn't think I knew she was ignoring me? She had to unfriend me to make it final? Who knows. I know that Facebook isn't the end of the world, but for her to go that extra mile really says something. It says she has no intention of ending this childish nonsense any time soon and she has no intention of becoming a better person. It tells me that she doesn't care how our relationship is despite the fact that we're sisters-in-law.

I've been doing my darndest to just ignore her and living an hour away makes that pretty easy, but my mother-in-law has this annoying way of trying to host family get-together's twice a month in which case I must come in contact with her. So far I've been just ignoring her. I have no interest in making a pretense of trying to talk to her to be met with a blank stare and silence or at best a 1-word monosyllabic response if my brother-in-law is nearby. No thanks.

Here's the really funny part. I know that my mother-in-law is going to try to tell me to "be the bigger person" and give her another chance because she's pregnant and off her meds, etc. etc., but I've given this chick so many chances it isn't funny. I've turned the other cheek several times. I've forgiven, though never forgotten and it's gotten me nowhere. If anything, she treats me even worse now. Sorry, but I'm done with her. If my husband can't deal with that, he can find another wife. I know it's horrible to let my crazy sister-in-law come between me and my husband, but she really has. He refuses to take my side or be the one person in the family willing to stand-up for me and I can't do it all alone. I just can't.

So if anyone reads this and has made it through the whole thing, thank you. Thank you for listening to me as I ranted -- probably incoherently at times -- about my dysfunctional family.

If you have any advice on how to handle the situation, I'd love to hear from you. Even if it's something totally weird and involves chicken blood and voodoo. All suggestions are welcome at this point, I'm THAT desperate.